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I recently re-connected with my friend and former colleague Henry Hurst who now lives and works in South Korea. He has contributed several comments and observations in these first few days of  The Dialogue.

He pulled my coat to something on “youtube.”

“Man if you go on youtube, and do a Black women search, you see that Black women are letting their true feelings out,” Henry said via Facebook.

“I just find it strange that it seems like the more progress we have financially and professionally, the worse our relationships get with Black women. When we were going through all sorts of adversity and being oppressed we had love for each other. I guess Black men and women think they don’t need each other.”

Of course we do need each other, now maybe more than ever. But, I followed Henry’s instructions and went to youtube and did the “Black women search.” My dread was affirmed.

 The first video was called, “Black women unmarried.” The next video was, “70% of African-American women are single.” Then there were some videos of Black women kissing. Of course the most viewed video–weighing in at 361,541 views as of December 30, 2009–was a comedy routine by Jamie Foxx (we love comedy!), “White women vs. Black women.”

And there were three or four videos on interracial dating. Of the top 10 there was only one called, “Black women are beautiful,” and that was one of the least viewed.

Honestly, I didn’t have it in me to view any of them, I was literally afraid of what I was going to hear, as if I didn’t already know.

Henry is right, Black women sure are “letting their true feelings out”…on youtube. But, what they are saying  and more importantly what they are feeling indicates they aren’t talking to us. We aren’t talking to each other.